Is Your Child a Cheater?
In the past year, the headlines have been filled with stories about cheating scandals at some of our most esteemed high schools and colleges, schools like the Air Force Academy, the Atlanta public schools, Stuyvesant High School in Manhattan, and most notably, Harvard University. The reasons behind the cheating can be blamed on the pressures caused by the highly competitive college admissions process and job environment, the prevalence of social media and technology that facilitates cheating and the win-at-all-costs mentality of a society obsessed with success.
In a September 6th post in HuffPost Parents, Mary Dell Harrington and Lisa Endich Heffernan offer helpful advice to parents on how to talk to their kids about cheating. Harrington and Heffernan write that parents must tell children that regardless of what their classmates are doing, cheating is wrong and won't be tolerated. Counseling parents to take the moral high ground, the authors write, "It is a tough place to stake out, a tough place to stay but ultimately, as parents, we know it is the right place to be."
I couldn't agree more. I'm telling my own children I'd rather see a failing grade, no matter how deep my initial disappointment, than a passing one achieved dishonestly. After all, I want my kids to have the one constant that will help them navigate this ever changing and confusing world: a strong sense of values.
But that got me thinking: Is there more that we as parents can do to find real solutions to cheating? What actions can parents take to affect real change so that cheating doesn't become an indelible part of our educational system?
In order to understand the scope of the problem, I resorted to what most parents do at the end of a long day to resolve a troubling parenting question... I turned to the Internet for answers.
I discovered that the statistics on cheating are downright dismal. According to a recent survey of 24,000 high school students in grades 9-12, a whopping 95% said they cheated during the course of their education. In a 2010 survey of 40,000 high school students (conducted by the nonprofit Josephson Institute of Ethics), more than half admitted to cheating on a test in the prior year, and 34% said they'd cheated twice.
Examples of student cheating range from copying another's homework, plagiarizing a take-home final exam or using a cell phone to photograph exam questions. The cheating doesn't always end with students. Professor Howard Gardner of Harvard University says, "Students... all too often see their professors cut corners -- in their class attendance, their attention to student work and, most flagrantly, their use of others to do research."
Equally discouraging, it appears that schools, teachers and parents often send mixed messages to children about cheating. Laurie L. Hazard, director of the Academic Center for Excellence at Bryant University, recently told Richard Perez-Pena of The New York Times, "Institutions do a poor job of making those boundaries clear and consistent, of educating students about them, of enforcing them, and of giving teachers a clear process to follow through on them."
Parents need to be accountable, too. Some parents may be tempted to look the other way when their kids cheat, justifying the means if the end results in admission to an elite college. And if their children are caught cheating, parents are sometimes quick to blame the school or the teacher, rather than holding themselves or their children accountable.
What then, to do? While I have no magic solution, here are four outcomes that I think would support parents like myself who hope to raise honest children.
First, parents need to be part of the solution, not the problem. Parents can foster awareness by discussing the issue in their schools and parent associations, building buy-in for policies that promote academic integrity. A parent, teacher and student anti-cheating covenant would be a good place to start. And when parents and schools collaborate, their guiding principle should be, "Does this policy treat fairly and protect the students who don't cheat?"
Second, as I've discovered with all ethical and governance issues, there has to be real commitment at the top to sustain meaningful change. This means school administrators must also make clear that cheating will not be tolerated, and parents should press educators to ensure this translates into meaningful action. Why not memorialize the commitment to ethical behavior in a mandate or a set of operating principles? Schools can adopt an Honor Code, charter or bylaws amendments, or a vision statement from the Board or Parent Association to guide conduct and give support to reformers seeking positive change. In addition, parents, teachers, and students must be better educated on the consequences of violations.
Third, parents -- through parent associations and civic organizations -- can work with school administrations to provide incentives for ethical behavior. For example, more scholarships can be awarded to students who demonstrate high ethics through academic achievement and personal integrity. Parents often struggle with the dilemma that while they want their kids to be honest, they suspect their children may not "get ahead" in the same way as someone who cheated. The goal of rewarding ethical behavior is to convince parents and students that being honest has its own tangible awards.
Finally, there has to be a dialogue at all levels of government about academic cheating, which goes to the heart of our educational system's integrity. As important as the debate is over testing and teaching standards, it has to share the spotlight -- from local school boards and councils to the corridors of the Department of Education and our legislatures -- with instilling academic integrity in the nation's classrooms. Parents can contribute to this debate by bringing their views and concerns to the attention of their elected and appointed officials. After all, there's no constituent group as influential as parents galvanized to protect their children's future.
Latest Blog
4-Times Married Hypocrite Rush Limbaugh Incensed About ABC's "Wife Swap"
On Friday's show, the right wing's expert on morality did a segment on how ABC's primetime reality show "Wife Swap" is a microcosm for what is wrong with this country's moral code. The episode in question paired a Tea Party family with a polyamorous family (wife, husband, live-in girlfriend). Limbaugh said the polyamorous family was portrayed as "the normal, loving, sympathetic...0 comments
NASA's Asteroid 'Grand Challenge' Announced
There may be killer asteroids headed for Earth, and NASA has decided to do something about it. The space agency announced a new "Grand Challenge" today (June 18) to find all dangerous space rocks and figure out how to stop them from destroying Earth. The new mission builds on projects already underway at NASA, including a plan to capture an asteroid,...0 comments
Justin Bieber Jets Out of LA After Being Cleared by Police of 'Hitting' Paparazzo in His Ferrari
Justin Bieber was surely breathing a sigh of relief as he jetted out of Los Angeles in a privately chartered Gulfstream IV on Wednesday morning. The 19-year-old has just been cleared by police of an alleged hit and run that occurred on Monday night, in Hollywood. Following the good news Bieber hopped onto a private plane and headed to Las Vegas, where...0 comments
Miley Cyrus Claims Alcohol Is More Dangerous Than Weed
Miley Cyrus has never said publicly that she smoked pot, but in a new Rolling Stone interview she doesn’t exactly deny it either. “I did a song with Snoop Dogg called ‘Ashtrays and Heartbreaks,’ so people can put it together for themselves,” Cyrus told the magazine. “I think alcohol is way more dangerous than marijuana. People can be mad at me for...0 comments

Obama's own Berlin Wall! US President issues warning to austerity Europe from behind bulletproof glass
US President spoke at Brandenberg Gate in BerlinBarack Obama addressed nuclear policies in US and RussiaSaid EU leaders may have to moderate cuts to 'save a generation' By Mail Foreign Service PUBLISHED: 18:46 EST, 19 June 2013 | UPDATED: 06:09 EST, 20 June 2013 57 View comments President Obama called for countries to break down the walls in their hearts as he gave a...0 comments

Nigella Lawson is seen without her wedding ring close to Mayfair bolthole where she has been living apart from husband Charles Saatchi
Charles Saatchi repeatedly grabbed wife Nigella Lawson by the neckNigella left their home in Chelsea on Sunday and hasn't returnedMiss Lawson staying in Mayfair and seen without her gold wedding bandArt tycoon dismissed row as a 'playful tiff' and says there 'was no grip'48 hours ago Saatchi accepted caution to stop it 'hanging over all of us'Tracey Emin says...0 comments

Dramatic moment couple spark full-scale rescue after getting stuck in quicksand up to their waists just yards from the shore
The man and woman were pulled from quicksand in race against high tideTheir pet dog managed to free itself from the beach at Sandside, CumbriaCoastguard and MPs warn people to stay away from 'dangerous' bay By Helen Lawson PUBLISHED: 04:41 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 06:02 EST, 20 June 2013 12 View comments A couple had to be rescued in a race against...0 comments

Tom Odell's father calls NME offices to complain about zero-star review
NME mauled Long Way Down, calling the singer a 'misguided wannabe'The Brit winner's father rang the the office to complain about the review'He'll be all over 2013 like a dose of musical syphilis,' thundered NME By Sam Webb PUBLISHED: 04:33 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 06:00 EST, 20 June 2013 0 View comments Cringe: After singer Tom Odell was given a big...0 comments

I am Bradley Manning: Russell Brand and Maggie Gyllenhaal front campaign backing WikiLeaks leaker
High-profile figures take turns to explain why they think the charges against Manning are unjustThe U.S. military whistleblower's court martial at Fort Meade in Maryland is now in its third weekHe faces a range of charges including 'aiding the enemy', which carries a potential death sentence By Damien Gayle PUBLISHED: 05:12 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 05:58 EST, 20 June 2013 ...0 comments

French extreme-right leader Marine Le Pen could face trial for comparing the country's Muslim community to the Nazi occupation
MEPs have begun process of stripping the far-right leader of legal immunityFrench prosecutors want to charge her with inciting racial hatredHer father was in 1998 stripped of immunity to face holocaust denial charge By Ian Sparks PUBLISHED: 05:49 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 05:49 EST, 20 June 2013 0 View comments French extreme right-wing leader Marine Le Pen faces potential prosecution for branding...0 comments

Baby 'Epic Hair' contest winner's mother outraged after 'heartless' Facebook users accuse her toddler of being a fraud and insist her wild mane is a WIG
By Sadie Whitelocks and Snejana Farberov PUBLISHED: 19:38 EST, 19 June 2013 | UPDATED: 05:46 EST, 20 June 2013 7 View comments A mother who submitted a photo of her young daughter sporting a wild coif for an online baby hair contest has found herself amid a firestorm of accusations from other parents claiming that her child was wearing a hairpiece. In an email...0 comments

Inside the Kansas survival shelter that will save humanity from a devastating meteorite or a nuclear holocaust
Caves will be 'the world's largest private underground survivor shelter' Kansas caverns are 100-ft to 150-ft below the surfaceSupported by thick limestone pillars six times stronger than concreteWill have blast doors built to withstand a one-megaton nuclear explosion By Associated Press PUBLISHED: 05:45 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 05:45 EST, 20 June 2013 0 View comments After most of the world's population...0 comments

Rhoose school crash: Five children and four adults including lollipop lady taken to hospital with serious injuries after car smashed into them and overturned outside primary school
A black Audi cabriolet collided with pedestrians outside Rhoose Primary School, in the Vale of Glamorgan, at around 8.50am this morningNine casualties including four with 'significant injuries', police sayWitnesses saw car 'in mid-air' after it accelerated into a bollardLollipop lady Karin Williams, 50, was left trapped underneath the carMale driver, 61, is helping police with their inquiriesSouth Wales police say...0 comments

Reclusive widow who lives rent-free in £4m Surrey mansion locked in legal battle with stepsons over claims she needs more from £7m estate to pay house staff
Clive Zola Berger warned sons he was 'watching' from beyond the gravePleaded with Julian and Jonathan not to allow arguments during probate His widow Rosana has gone to court for a larger share of his fortune By Becky Evans PUBLISHED: 04:43 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 05:37 EST, 20 June 2013 14 View comments .The reclusive widow of a wealthy property tycoon...0 comments

Bernadette Lee: Dental nurse, 25, froze to death in the snow without shoes or coat outside sister's house when she called around after night out and found her away from home
Bernadette Lee, 25, was found frozen to death in snow after a night outShe had tried unsuccessfully to contact friends and her sister Jodie, 33She was found on a snowy lawn yards from Jodie's house in Deal, Kent By Rosie Taylor PUBLISHED: 05:10 EST, 20 June 2013 | UPDATED: 05:37 EST, 20 June 2013 28 View comments Froze to death: Dental nurse Bernadette...0 comments

Female teen found dead on train tracks next to her best friend was 'in a dark place' after break-up with her girlfriend
By Daily Mail Reporter PUBLISHED: 10:15 EST, 20 March 2013 | UPDATED: 05:33 EST, 20 June 2013 Two teenagers have been found dead side-by-side on train tracks after one of the girls was 'in a dark place' following a recent break up with her long-time girlfriend.Arielle Troutman, 16, and Hannah Rigley, 18, were found dead beneath a train on the edge of the...0 comments
Comment on: Is Your Child a Cheater?
Rate this article
Pictures & Photos Blog
Breaking News
Daniel Radcliffe Ponders Bond Villain Role
As glowing reviews pour in from Daniel Radcliffe's stage turn as an orphan in "The Cripple of Inishmaan," the 23-year-old "Harry Potter" star shrugged off ... Full story
4-Times Married Hypocrite Rush Limbaugh Incensed About ABC's "Wife Swap"
On Friday's show, the right wing's expert on morality did a segment on how ABC's primetime reality show "Wife Swap" is a microcosm for what ... Full story
Singapore Haze at Worst Yet, Malaysia Schools Shut Down
Singapore urged people to remain indoors amid unprecedented levels of air pollution Thursday as a smoky haze wrought by forest fires in neighboring Indonesia worsened ... Full story
NASA's Asteroid 'Grand Challenge' Announced
There may be killer asteroids headed for Earth, and NASA has decided to do something about it. The space agency announced a new "Grand Challenge" ... Full story
James Gandolfini dead: Actor dies in Rome during holiday 'to connect with his roots'
Actor, 51, had heart attack in his hotel after family day out in RomeGandolfini 'had been excited about visiting his parents' homeland'He is survived by ...
Justin Bieber Jets Out of LA After Being Cleared by Police of 'Hitting' Paparazzo in His Ferrari
Justin Bieber was surely breathing a sigh of relief as he jetted out of Los Angeles in a privately chartered Gulfstream IV on Wednesday morning. The ... Full story
Miley Cyrus Claims Alcohol Is More Dangerous Than Weed
Miley Cyrus has never said publicly that she smoked pot, but in a new Rolling Stone interview she doesn’t exactly deny it either. “I did a ... Full story
A Very Short Video of a Guy and a Weird Cat Hanging Out 
This is a strange glimpse of relationship between man and feline. It's like blundering into a conversation you missed the first part of, and then ... Full story
James Gandolfini dead: Stars from Susan Sarandon to Mia Farrow share their grief
By Cassie Carpenter PUBLISHED: 21:29 EST, 19 June 2013 | UPDATED: 06:18 EST, 20 June 2013 34 View comments Celebrities took to Twitter on Wednesday night to share their ...
Obama's own Berlin Wall! US President issues warning to austerity Europe from behind bulletproof glass
US President spoke at Brandenberg Gate in BerlinBarack Obama addressed nuclear policies in US and RussiaSaid EU leaders may have to moderate cuts to 'save ...
MOST POPULAR ON CAPITALBAY
Displaying
1 - 5
Displaying
1 - 5
Featured Articles
USA States
This is a list of the United States and its Territories in alphabetical order:United States Links
View Many useful US Links:





